last Friday night, i went out with vladette, glenda and madelo(my highschool classmates) patrying in lapu-lapu with a huge crowd checking out San Miguel’s oktobeer fest party (sounds redundant fest & party…watever).

on my way to meeting them,nawala na sd ko sa ako agi coz instead of going to AS Fortuna, nilahos kog Talamban. I really am that bad when it comes to directions. kapila nko nawala dnhe cebu to think i’ve been spending my life here formore than 2yrs now. shame on me. hehe.

oh well, although gisapot nko, i was still able to meet them and enjoy the party. to highlight that night’s experience, i was able to see ALVIN PATRIMONIO & ALAN CAIDIC in person. sheyt. mga gwapo kaau. hehe.

add to that seeing RIVERMAYA & BROWNMAN REVIVAL perform live. mabuang ko cge shagita…saonz pud.tagsa ra mn sdko kiat2x.hehe..i went home 6am na the following day. i had much fun!

How does it feel having a friend as your confidante, only to be betrayed and be put into shame? Yes, exactly. From that point forward, conflict will arise — with friendship put into test, or into an end.

How do you define friendship? Definitely, it isn’t about money. It isn’t about fame. It’s about sharing something in common with another individual — a hobby (I’d say), may be attitude, or an opinion about something (though opinion doesn’t really have to be the same), or could be a secret.

How would it feel if, at some point, your “friend” told someone (worst, a crowd) about your secret, putting you under shame? Tendency is you might get pissed off (which I’d say is expected). Or, just for old time’s sake, let’s use the term “over react,” and then, get pissed off. I cannot find a better word for it.

A friend is someone you can trust with, and rely on. You can be just anyone you want to be with a friend. You can act stupid, dumb, smart, just fine, or whatever. A friend can always be brutally frank with you if you’re getting stupid (to put it bluntly), if that helps you become a better person. A friend can be exempted from doing that, just as long as he’s or she’s logically right, or if it really is necessary. But putting a friend under a circumstance where it should have been unnecessary? No way!

What about a friend “announcing” your secret to a group of people, whom you don’t intend your secret be revealed? Now, that’s what I call betrayal of trust. And worst, seeing your “friend” laughing at you. It isn’t about the secret coming out into the open — not that per se. It’s about the “act” of telling the secret. Saying that you are sorry is not enough when the damage has been done.

Take away trust from a relationship, you’ll see respect from each other diminishing. It’s value deteriorating, until you’ll come to that point that there’s no more left in that friendship built for how many years… except those fine memories you’ve both shared. And those were nothing but (part of) history.

According to the Golden Rule, do unto others what you want others to do unto you. Or as what Confucius has said, do not do unto others what you don’t want others to do unto you. It’s the same thought, although as you can depict in how they are stated, the first one was stated positively, while the latter, the opposite. But bottomline is, when you’re told about someone else’s secret, keep it to yourself, unless it will put someone into trouble.

Bow.